Tuesday, August 30, 2011

The Girlfriend Guide: Deanna from Delirious Rhapsody

Welcome to this week's edition of The Girlfriend Guide: brought to you by Deanna 
from Delirious Rhapsody!  I have adored Deanna for quite some time now: she has a 
very unique voice and chronicles her journey through motherhood in a way that brings 
a smile to my face daily.  She is real, honest, and able to see the humor in any situation: 
my kind of girl.  I hope that you enjoy her insight into a very special friendship! 

Hi! I'm Deanna and I blog over at delirious rhapsody. I'm a stay at home mama of two 
wild little boys, Gage Hendrix, who turned four in July, and Owsley Duncan, who will be 
one in November. I'm a quirky gal who likes good music, spending time with the family, 
being outdoors, and crafting/baking. Oh yeah, and I love to blog too!

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Today I'm going to put a little twist on 'The Girlfriend Guide.' While I have good friends 
that would help me at the drop of a hat, I feel that (aside from my husband) one of the 
people who knows the most about me, and I feel totally connected to, is Lindsay, 
someone who I have never even met in real life. She lives 730 miles away from me, and 
yet I feel like she's my cosmically aligned soul sister. She really gets me, and she takes 
me for who I am, flaws and all.


I feel like a lot of stay at home mamas can totally relate with connecting with someone 
online. And I feel so blessed to have Lindsay as part of my life, even if she is inside 
my computer screen or stuck in my phone line.

1. Introduce us to your best friend! When, where, and how did you meet?
I have been online journaling in some form for the past 12 years. Shortly after my oldest
son was born, I joined a Weight Watchers community on livejournal and posted
some progress pictures. Lindsay came and visited my journal, and we clicked. I feel like
over the past four years, she has learned more about me than people who have known me
my entire life.
2. What is your personal definition of friendship? 
Having that someone special in your life who love you for you. You take the good as
well as the bad, no questions asked.
3. What qualities do you look for in a girlfriend? 
Trustworthy, understanding, a good sense of humor, open-minded.
4. How do you balance spending time with friends and fostering 
relationships with work and family? 
I really struggle with this one. Especially since my husband works two jobs so that I can
stay home with the boys. So I feel guilty if I don't spend the time that he actually is home
with him. I want to make time for your family, but at the same time, I want to take
some time out for myself. Fortunately for me, many of my 'real life' friends have children,
so we can hang out while we have a playdate at the same time.
5. What advice would you give other women about having healthy, 
happy friendships? 
Don't give up on your good friends. I can't tell you how many wonderful girlfriends that I
have lost contact with, for one reason or another. And it's really sad, because at one point
in my life they were very special to me.
6. How has having strong friendships enriched your life? 
Good friendships make me feel free. They help me be the person that I want to be, and
there is nothing as amazing as connecting with someone who understands who you are.
7. What is your favorite girlfriend memory you have shared? 
Lindsay probably doesn't even remember this, but one evening we were talking online. I
have body issues at times (I used to be a bigger girl, and sometimes that's what I see when
I look in the mirror.) I was telling Lindsay that I was thinking about getting pregnant
again, but I was so scared of gaining weight and not being able to lose it again. And she
told me that I had the rest of my life to lose weight, but if I wanted another baby, that's
what I needed to do. That really stuck with me, and was pretty much a slap in my face to
stop being so selfish (even if that's not what she intended for it to mean.) So basically,
Lindsay is one of the reasons my son, Owsley, was born. Thanks, Lindsay. :) I love you!

Thank you so much for sharing, Deanna.  So many of us can relate to the friendship you
share with Lindsay.  It truly is amazing to "meet" people online who share common
interests and experiences and having these support systems are truly a blessing!
If you are interested in participating in the Girlfriend Guide, contact me at the
email address below for more information!


deanna@delirious-rhapsody said...

i feel a little weird commenting on my post, but i wanted to let you know that i laughed out loud (almost dropping my coffee) when i read about your mom giving you a side ponytail. :)

thanks for having me and letting me share my friend with your little corner of the internet!

crystal.m. said...

Deanna, you are the sweetest! I feel like I know her now too! :)

Caitlin said...

Love this and love Deanna!

Sarbear said...

"she told me that I had the rest of my life to lose weight, but if I wanted another baby, that's
what I needed to do."

Such good advice. Deanna is as awesome as they come. I can definitely relate to feeling as close or closer to online friends as those in "real" life.

Anonymous said...

I love this post. One of my best friends live in Louisiana (i live in Illinois) we connected over a message board and are just the closest friends.. I not only consider her one of my best friends but she is like a sister! Great advice.

KimBerly said...

Nice to meet you!

sarah nicole said...

What a sweet features! Good girlfriends are SO important.